5 Reasons why Gay people make the world a better place

We live in a world that could have been better. For every new medicinal innovation, there is a new disease. For every treaty signed, a war breaks out elsewhere. For every life saved, somewhere else, someone's is lost. The disparity between the first & the third world is staggering.

Where is the hope?

Well! It would rather be sweeping to say 'gay men'. But, there's a lot more advantage for the society due to this community than possibly any other community.

How?

#1 Population

We seriously don't need more population on this planet which is already very crowded. The common notion is so skewed and twisted that if a man has to be responsible, that will either happen when he is married(to a woman) and if that doesn't happen, it will automatically happen when he has a kid. Now, what about the woman and kid? For every man who is course-corrected to be "responsible", aren't 2 irresponsible beings being created? Barring very few rare cases, gay couples prefer adoption to procreating using test tubes. The world needs more such people!

#2 No sexual violence against women

Women will feel a lot more safer in a world where they aren't sexually oppressed and subjected to violence. There is no way gay men would resort to that kind of violence with women(I can even vouch men). Everything works with mutual consent.

#3 Happiness

The world would seriously be a happier place. Aren't we all called 'gay' with a reason?

#4 Pursuit of Excellence

It is a well-established fact that gay people are far more relentless and focussed in their careers and create success, wealth and value as much as anyone else, or even better. Tim Cook, Megan Ellison, Elton John, Ricky Martin, Ellen DeGeneres you could go on and on. The standards they have set are really high and we wouldn't settle for mediocrity at any cost. This is not just good for themselves but they create value for the society at large.

#5 Goodness

I have met 1000s of gay men and I am yet to meet a man who is as greedy as a straight man. There's a lot more contentment, happiness and gay people are greedy only for love. Nothing else. There will be no plundering of natural resources or wealth or other people's happiness when you are at peace with yourself. The gay community is extremely good as gold at heart. This goodness only spreads and we don't go for wars. All we go for is Love Jihad!

If a lot of people are going to be homophobic, it wouldn't be wrong to say they have a problem with a peaceful, happier world with civilised people who do just about their own thing. This is the kind of (not so)humans that is a bane to the planet spreading hate, chaos, violence and all sorts of negativity.

It is good for the world that there is still a small amount of human race that constantly strives to make this place better by being just their natural self. Here's to all the gay people in the world. Big O! 

Why is loyalty is scarcity in gay relationships?

There's true love and equal love and N shades of in between. It's all beautiful to trend on twitter and facebook. The whole world went ahead and changed their DPs on Facebook when 'Love won'(according to who, thought?). But, let us take a step back and see. Does it reflect the real scheme of things? 

There is an occasional news of a gay marriage in California that we read about in the papers. Nobody really cares to know how long that marriage sustains for some strange reason. I wouldn't be bringing this question in a straight marriage, a) because I don't care. b) this entire post is about the fragility of gay relationships due to loyalty or rather the lack of it.

That brings us to the question why is loyalty so scarce among the gay community? 

Or is it not just the gay community?

When you look at the numbers, straight marriages obviously last longer than gay marriages. Some of the reasons are: 

#1 Validation 

As it happens with most other things in the animal kingdom, the human race is extremely socially conscious. Most sucky marriages, especially, straight ones survive mainly due to stigma and fear of society. Given a choice, they would freely walk away doing their own thing. But, their need for social validation is a lot more than their need to protect their own happiness. So, they let it cannibalise their happiness and suffer through a bad marriage. A relationship on the other hand is far more easier to let go off and breakups are mainstream now. When it comes to the gay community, we aren't there yet socially. Nobody actually cares if you are single or married and it really doesn't become as much of a talking point, except a few(read as most) of the gossip-mongering people, who nobody can do nothing about anyway. 

#2 Long Distance

There are so many women in my neighbourhood in Madras, whose husbands work in the Gulf countries and they don't even get to see them for years together. Yet, a conversation with a local doctor revealed to me some staggering numbers in terms of the number of abortion cases she had to deal with on a daily basis amidst those women. Well! Doctor-Patient confidentiality - RIP! 

The point is, humans are driven by their instincts and hormones. These 2 are way more powerful than what one can imagine and everyone succumbs to these things at some point or the other. However, a lot of times these things are not even revealed to the husband, who probably has his side to the story as well in a foreign land. 

In gay relationships/marriages too, distance is one of the factors for the lack of monogamy, which is closely yet mistakenly associated with loyalty. When both the parties are fine with an open relationship, it is a different story. However, when monogamy comes to play, that is the beginning of the end. 

#3 Lack of Commitment 

Well, for most other cases, I would simply attribute it to lack of commitment towards the relationship itself and to the partner in question. It isn't impossible to hold on to one person provided there is a will to do so. This is something each of us need to introspect and decide whether we can afford the amount of commitment a relationship needs. Sometimes, they can be very demanding and those are the moments of test of strength. Those who sail through successfully experience the proverbial 'happily ever after', for the rest it is the beginning of a new chapter. To each is his own. I am glad I don't have to mention 'her' in my previous sentence considering the context here. :) 

5 Real reasons behind homophobia

It is sickening to think people use the word 'gay' as an abuse and often times, it is not even apparent to them that it is as heinous as racism. What is even more appalling is the liberal unmindful usage on apparently evolved streams of social media where they use the word for name-calling, thinking that's what they are doing. What one doesn't realise is that gays are actually better than straight men at practically everything they do. Now, I will reserve that for another post. 

What one cant' deny is the fact that a large section of "modern" society is naturally homophobic or they at least need to pretend to be so, in order to get majoritarian acceptance. There is a stigma around being 'gay' and it is impossible for many to even reason with the fact that they are as normal as anybody else. Being gay is an attribute and not an identity. 

#1 Minority Community

The world isn't a fair place. In a planet of 7 billion people, of which let us safely assume at least 3 billion are grown up men, only 45,000 people are online on Planetromeo. That, for a small sample, proves that we are 0.00000642857% of the human race. Small enough to be called 'minority' community. To most of the planet, we don't even exist considering how small the numbers are. Despite that, our voices are heard. Thanks to the power of the internet and other mediums of free speech. It is natural, at least according to Charles Darwin, we need to fight for our existence. 

#2 Stigma 

In reality, people are actually not that homophobic. Seriously! With the kind of everyday battles people are fighting day-in and day-out with disease, distress, war, unemployment, economic issues and many more roadblocks for peaceful existence, who really has the time to think about 0.00000642857% of the human race? Let us be practical. Nobody gives a damn! Yet, imagine if 1 person among a group of 5 men says something in favour of the gay community. The very next question would be 'Are you gay?'. It is as stupid as asking a male advocate of woman's rights 'Are you a woman?' or an animal activist 'Are you a cow?'. Yet, nobody thinks for a second about asking such ridiculously stupid questions. The easiest way to deal with such situations or rather avoid them altogether is just be part of the larger group and nod in favour of their opinions, no matter how stupid they are! 

#3 Drama

Gay men are partially to be blamed for homophobia too. I know a lot of my readers wouldn't buy this idea of mine. Yet, I am going to go ahead and say it. A lot of gay men are unnecessarily dramatic and the air they carry around is often annoying even to other gay men. Like I mentioned, being gay is a part of you and that isn't the ONLY thing that defines you. Subtlety is an art. Overdose of anything isn't good and that applies to expressing oneself too. If you are loud and attention-seeking, the phobia that you receive is more on account of that and not being gay itself. It is also because of this kind of crowd that Karan Johar movies portray them in a certain way and further reinforce the opinions in the minds of people. If you would like people to accept you normally, the way you are, there is just one way to do it. Be normal. Nobody likes tantrums! Seriously. 

#4 Religion

A lot of religious beliefs have been misconstrued and propagated incorrectly over the years. The gatekeepers to God have unfailingly chosen to either ignore or add to the agony by further giving their own not-so-creative touch to it. So, these so-called messiahs and God-men have time and again made sure that the 0.00000642857% of human race is some sort of typo on the planet. In any case, most religious outfits and institutions have been built using oppression as brick and fear as mortar. It is rather too unsurprising for me to believe that we have been easy targets. 

#5 Frustration

Most humans are in real, frustrated creatures. They look for excuses all the time to cover up their inadequacies and incompetencies. Let us just face the fact that most people live a terrible life lost in paying education loans, car loans, EMIs and where is the time for living your dreams and that vacation that you wanted to take to Venice? Gay men are often free from such commitments and far more successful in life in terms of career, finance etc. and can afford to take such luxurious vacations. I don't want to stereotype here but a lot of gay men are opulent and love living a good life and having the best of things. They are because they bloody can! The only way for the losers to get back at them is homophobia. Well! who cares! :P 

I know this isn't the most thought-provoking piece of writing ever. It isn't even the most sensible one. Nor is the language savour-worthy. Yet, when you look at things deeply, these are some basic things that we fail to take a look at and that actually influence human thinking and behaviour. If you have a different point of view, feel free to share it with me.