Let us admit that we all are social creatures and we seek acceptance & love. Our quest for meeting the right man who would stand by us, share with us his joys, sorrows & life experiences is usually never-ending. In fact, that is one of the reasons we still have those (pointless) accounts on Grindr, PlanetRomeo and more.
A lot of it depends on the first interaction. Often times, you come across sex seekers or worse, so-called straight men seeking a blowjob at the max, most Indian women don't blow. However, to be able to identify & develop a rapport with a man that would sweep you off your feet is rare. If that happens, do not blow your chances on your first date:
#1 Place is most important
It needn't be a fancy place nor should you go for something really street cheap. People always look for memorable experiences. So, a high-rise balcony of a friend with a view of city lights or a quiet lunch at a place where there is enough room for you to remain undisturbed is good enough.
#2 Dress up to impress
Most people dress only to be undressed. However, if you really care about the date, dress up to perfection. Put some effort in researching what is in vogue, wear something that isn't too loud or tacky but suits you to perfection. A white/black shirt & a blue denim pants with brown leather boots always looks sexy on a man. Use mild perfume. Do NOT stink or be sweaty since that really isn't respectful. Do not wear clothes that reveal chest hair & other such things.
#3 Never brag
It is important to be yourself & all that but do not get into brag mode. You may be too good at doing 12 things or the youngest guy in your board. However, in an attempt to impress the person if you are going to get all bragging about yourselves, that is the hugest turn-off. I have had the urge to empty the dishes of gravy in our lunch spread on the head of the other person for the amount of bragging I have had to hear on some dates. Chances are I have made the same mistake too.
#4 Movie is never a bad idea but watch out
A movie date is never a very bad idea however keep your hands off the guy. Do not come across as a creep by running your fingers on his thighs or heaving breathe near his earlobes while trying to whisper something to him. It could be turning on for some people however, it shows your desperation and that is never a good thing.
#5 Do not talk money
Money has a weird quality. It has the power to get us all we want however, it somehow remains one of the major reasons for unhappiness in the world. Discussing money is one of the most disastrous ideas on a first date. It either makes the entire thing boring or it makes either of you sad/annoyed.
#6 Always dutch your first date
No matter what, insist on dutching your first date. Each man pays for his own meal/ticket/whatever. That not only increases mutual respect but is also the best way to pave way for other future collaborations.
#7 Sex - Not really a priority
As long as there is a strong sense of sexual reciprocation, refrain as much as you can from getting laid on the first date. It is always good to hold back & grow your yearning for a person. As long as it is just a fling that you really don't care much about, do not have sex on the mind. Sometimes it can be disappointing & extinguish those beautiful flames that are just beginning.
#8 Don't stick like a lizard
Any relationship builds organically. When you try to stick to someone too much, that really doesn't work out at all. Giving the other person ample space to get accustomed & feel warm is important. Don't breathe into his sleeves and make him suffocate in your thoughts. That is recipe to a faster farewell.
These are lessons learnt from personal disasters. Very rarely have I had the perfect dates & such poignant moments are really rare. I somehow blow it off sooner or later. In the interest of others, I have written this based on my own mistakes & experiences & I wish you have several memorable first dates!
A lot of it depends on the first interaction. Often times, you come across sex seekers or worse, so-called straight men seeking a blowjob at the max, most Indian women don't blow. However, to be able to identify & develop a rapport with a man that would sweep you off your feet is rare. If that happens, do not blow your chances on your first date:
#1 Place is most important
It needn't be a fancy place nor should you go for something really street cheap. People always look for memorable experiences. So, a high-rise balcony of a friend with a view of city lights or a quiet lunch at a place where there is enough room for you to remain undisturbed is good enough.
#2 Dress up to impress
Most people dress only to be undressed. However, if you really care about the date, dress up to perfection. Put some effort in researching what is in vogue, wear something that isn't too loud or tacky but suits you to perfection. A white/black shirt & a blue denim pants with brown leather boots always looks sexy on a man. Use mild perfume. Do NOT stink or be sweaty since that really isn't respectful. Do not wear clothes that reveal chest hair & other such things.
#3 Never brag
It is important to be yourself & all that but do not get into brag mode. You may be too good at doing 12 things or the youngest guy in your board. However, in an attempt to impress the person if you are going to get all bragging about yourselves, that is the hugest turn-off. I have had the urge to empty the dishes of gravy in our lunch spread on the head of the other person for the amount of bragging I have had to hear on some dates. Chances are I have made the same mistake too.
#4 Movie is never a bad idea but watch out
A movie date is never a very bad idea however keep your hands off the guy. Do not come across as a creep by running your fingers on his thighs or heaving breathe near his earlobes while trying to whisper something to him. It could be turning on for some people however, it shows your desperation and that is never a good thing.
#5 Do not talk money
Money has a weird quality. It has the power to get us all we want however, it somehow remains one of the major reasons for unhappiness in the world. Discussing money is one of the most disastrous ideas on a first date. It either makes the entire thing boring or it makes either of you sad/annoyed.
#6 Always dutch your first date
No matter what, insist on dutching your first date. Each man pays for his own meal/ticket/whatever. That not only increases mutual respect but is also the best way to pave way for other future collaborations.
#7 Sex - Not really a priority
As long as there is a strong sense of sexual reciprocation, refrain as much as you can from getting laid on the first date. It is always good to hold back & grow your yearning for a person. As long as it is just a fling that you really don't care much about, do not have sex on the mind. Sometimes it can be disappointing & extinguish those beautiful flames that are just beginning.
#8 Don't stick like a lizard
Any relationship builds organically. When you try to stick to someone too much, that really doesn't work out at all. Giving the other person ample space to get accustomed & feel warm is important. Don't breathe into his sleeves and make him suffocate in your thoughts. That is recipe to a faster farewell.
These are lessons learnt from personal disasters. Very rarely have I had the perfect dates & such poignant moments are really rare. I somehow blow it off sooner or later. In the interest of others, I have written this based on my own mistakes & experiences & I wish you have several memorable first dates!
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